There is a theory that we each express love in different ways that can be classified broadly under 5 “love languages“:
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch
- Giving/Receiving Gifts
It’s interesting that our two older children seem to have preferences for the way that they give and receive love. Today I have been wondering what makes us develop these kind of preferences; are we born hard-wired for a love language or are there environmental influences in our development that cause us to develop preferences?
Do these preferences develop because that is how we experience love, or do we develop a craving for a love language if we experience a deficiency in it?
Why do I need words of affirmation?
Is there an age after which I can change my preferred love language? Or is that a default setting that I return to?
In case you are wondering Child 1 responds best to words of affirmation and Child 2 prefers physical touch, for the time being.