Love languages

There is a theory that we each express love in different ways that can be classified broadly under 5 “love languages“:

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch
  • Giving/Receiving Gifts

It’s interesting that our two older children seem to have preferences for the way that they give and receive love. Today I have been wondering what makes us develop these kind of preferences; are we born hard-wired for a love language or are there environmental influences in our development that  cause us to develop preferences?

Do these preferences develop because that is how we experience love, or do we develop a craving for a love language if we experience a deficiency in it?

Why do I need words of affirmation?

Is there an age after which I can change my preferred love language? Or is that a default setting that I return to?

In case you are wondering Child 1 responds best to words of affirmation and Child 2 prefers physical touch, for the time being.

Our second go at "house church"

So I asked God
“What should I do?”
He said, “You already know”
“Love the Lord Your God,”
I replied
“And your neighbour as yourself”
Knowing I don’t do either
Very well
“Do the latter then”
“But who is my neighbour?”
I asked, tongue in cheekily
“Look it up in the dictionary”
came the divine response
Then silence

neighbour n.
1. a person who lives near or next to another


Not rocket science
Not mind-blowing
Not even an answer whispered on the wind
Or prayed over
Fervently by wagging tongues
Speaking tongues

Recipe for mild chaos ensues:
Take two families
Sprinkle a couple of extra
Lovely, loving Christians
Mix in praise
A bible treasure hunt
Prayer
Fold in a pizza or two
Top with cheesecake
From heaven
And bring to the boil
With endless
Cups of tea

How does an eye look after a foot?

Or a hand look after a belly button?
Except to realise
Make real
the knowledge
belief
and attitude
that one is connected to the other
as one body
when one part hurts
we all
hurt
we weep
with those that weep

the body may function
without a foot
but it will limp
and be unbalanced
surely people
are superior
to prosthetics

Strategy pt. 1 (Warning about Self-Confidence)

Look here, when we say, “Today or tomorrow we are going to teach a certain topic and learn all about it. We will run a small group and make the Lord known.” How do we know what the life of people will be like tomorrow? Their  faith is like a fire—it burns brightly a little while, then dies downs, then brightly again. What we ought to say is, “If the Lord wants to, He will use us to reveal Himself to them.”

Otherwise we are boasting about our own plans, and all such boasting is evil.
 James 4v13-16

What would she have said? (poem for Adam and Ellen’s wedding)

What would she have said?
If she were here today?
To see her eldest son
Taken away?

What would she have said?
As a daughter she gained?
About the weather outside?
And whether it rained?

What would she have felt?
An unseen tie broken
Her son loved as a husband
With rings given as tokens

What would she have thought?
As two became one
Would she have shed tears
Of joy for her son

What advice would she have given
To a couple starting out
“Make the most of each day”
Of that, there is no doubt

What would she have said?
I’m sure this is true:
“I love you my Adam,
And I love you Ellen, too”